Don’t Be Transparent, Be Authentic Instead

iStock 000005602163XSmall1 150x150 Dont Be Transparent, Be Authentic InsteadSome people tend to tweet, blog, post, and status-update their little hearts out. Be it on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, MySpace, their own blog, or whatever. They say it’s all about transparency, and transparency is good.

But I think we need to be careful.

While we may be opening ourselves up for the world to see, we may be opening ourselves up a world of trouble, too.

Transparency may seem like the latest fashion. But it can also become dangerous on many levels. Some dangers are obvious, like being robbed after publicizing you were out. Others, not as much, like being reprimanded for saying something you shouldn’t have said, or even being fired for insulting your customers.

My contention is, too much transparency can hurt you in many ways.

I agree that social media is great for developing and nurturing relationships. That’s what the word “social” in social media means. Or what it should mean, anyway.

But as with all relationships, even when continuous, open communication is an important component, there should be a little mystique to keep the flame alive. A little room to allow for exploration and discovery over a period of time instead of all at once.

In today’s open, Web 2.0 world, privacy is more crucial than ever before. Why? Because transparent or not, everything you say online is permanent, can be found, and can be easily misinterpreted. Especially when taken out of context.

For example, I love Twitter’s 140-character limitations.

But when a tweet is published as part of a succession of related tweets, or when posted as a response to another or as part of an ongoing conversation, a general search will turn up an incomplete message that may be misleading and counterproductive.

The key is to know what to keep private and what to reveal. And whatever you do reveal, to think strategically so that what you say is properly said. In short, it’s knowing what to say and how to say it. To reveal the right things, in the right way.

(Sounds a lot like copywriting, doesn’t it?)

Do you need to tweet or blog about your failures? Sometimes. But not all of them, and not all the time, either. Same thing with your successes. You don’t want to give away the store — much less give away any ammunition that can be used against you.

Saying more than what you need to say makes you both vulnerable and open to criticism, and may also communicate the wrong message to your audience.

Remember, there’s a difference between authenticity and transparency. Being too transparent is not a good thing. Sure, go ahead and project trustworthiness, authority, and a willingness to share. Be candid and forthright. Be genuine and direct.

But remember, scammers and competitors are watching you, too.

Moreover, don’t forget your clients, prospects, partners, and affiliates. If you’re too open, you may be communicating you won’t value their privacy, you can’t keep secrets, and you’re opening yourself up to abuse — I call this an unconscious paralleled assumption.

Aaron Wall said it best: “Appearing transparent is profitable, being transparent is not.”

In other words, there’s a difference between being perceived as open and being open. Between communicating a sense of transparency and actually being transparent. Between being authentic and authoritative, and being defensive and self-absorbed.

Authenticity is saying things right. Authority is saying the right things. But transparency is saying everything. And it’s wrong. You don’t need to say everything to be transparent, and you don’t need to be transparent to be authentic and authoritative.

Just say what you mean and mean what you say.

But don’t say everything or else what you say will mean nothing.

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  • http://www.mikestenger.com/ Mike Stenger

    I agree Michel. Being transparent is good but when people can read about and know EVERYTHING about you and your life, what makes you different than any celebrity? As well, you’ll be in the spotlight quite a bit.

    I don’t want people knowing about everything that’s going on in my life, just enough to open up about it a good bit. Being authentic and unique is something that’s much more powerful and translates to what people really pay attention to down the road.

  • http://stevepohlit.com/ Steve Pohlit

    Thank you Michael. I am an advocate of using sound judgment when communicating. That is in alignment with your valuable advice here.

  • http://www.DotComSecretsTour.com/ Jenn Spencer

    Excellent blog post. Great reminder for me. We tend to get so caught up in social media that we don’t always think before we post! Thanks for sharing this. Made me realize there truly is a distinction between being transparent and appearing transparent. Thanks!

    • http://MichelFortin.com/ Michel Fortin

      Thank you. And yes, that’s the point. People think that social media is an opportunity to say everything, for the sake of transparency. But social media shouldn’t be like “big brother,” with cameras-in-print following your every move.

  • http://www.LazyMillionDollars.com/ Chris Stigson

    Great advice. Many I know are all about revealing everythig to connect with people and they are making a lot of money… On the other hand, we have the “cold” person who sits and hides behind his screen with 34 pen-names raking in the same amount of dough… And knows everyone at an event, just the same…

    I don’t know which is better, but it’s great both ways work…

  • http://thephilosopherschair.com/ TatianaV

    This article of yours is filled with wisdom Michael, and I especially loved: these two gems:

    … “But remember, scammers and competitors are watching you, too”…
    and
    …”Just say what you mean and mean what you say”.

    And especially the second quote is worth living by. Thank you!

  • http://www.ryanhealy.com/ Ryan Healy

    This question — how transparent should I be — is something I wrestle with frequently. When I was just getting started as a copywriter, I was more willing to share what was happening in my career. After all, very few people were reading my blog!

    Now, I’m much more careful. All kinds of people read my blog now — including clients. I’ve found the ability to keep secrets to be very good for business. As you say, too much transparency can be bad… VERY bad.

    Ryan

    • http://MichelFortin.com/ Michel Fortin

      Indeed. And as I’ve stated, by being too transparent you can convey the wrong message, such as that you can’t keep secrets. Especially for us copywriters, this can work against us and bite us back in the end.

      Glad to see you here, Ryan.

  • http://www.frankdeardurff.com/ Frank Deardurff

    Very well said and good food for thought on a threaded tweet being only partly read. Makes a lot of sense.

  • http://blog.filecatalyst.com/ Greg

    I dunno, Michel.

    Transparency doesn’t equal “say everything about everything.” What it really means is that you should not withhold information; ie. do not fail to educate prospects and clients simply because you think you have industry secrets to keep.

    In our company blog, I published a series of articles on “how file transfer acceleration works,” which basically outlined how accelerated “FTP replacements” work. Some of our competitors tend to treat this side of their product as “black magic,” cloaking the actual technology behind marketing-speak, but we feel it’s better for potential and existing clients to be educated.

    To me, this is what’s meant by “transparency.” What your article addresses is the tendency for people to claim that their “overshare” is “transparency.”

    So, to me, there’s no such thing as “too much transparency,” there’s just Too Much Information. ;-)

    Cheers,
    Greg

    • http://MichelFortin.com/ Michel Fortin

      Sounds more like semantics to me. Essentially, we’re saying the same thing. I call it authenticity instead of transparency. Regardless, the point is, there IS such a thing as TMI. And you’re absolutely right.

      • http://blog.filecatalyst.com/ Greg

        Yep, probably just semantics. I’m known to be a bit of a boring ol’ pedant when it comes to language. ;-) Just wouldn’t want to see a semantic mix-up between the positively-associated “transparency” and the negative side of TMI that you’re talking about here.

  • sethsimonds

    Another thing I’ve seen from many freelancers on Twitter, etc, is a tendency to complain about projects and clients. The argument “I didn’t name any names” doesn’t hold a drop of water because, by not using a name, they’ve given all of their current clients reason to think the complaint is about them.

    Transparency = Tweeting that I’m angry about a client pushing me to finish a project early.
    The result: Current and any potential clients who happen to see that tweet assume that I’m unprofessional and a pain to work with.

    Authenticity= Tweeting that I’m going for a run so I can get my blood flowing for a client who needs great work completed in record time!
    The result= Current and potential clients get a sense of who I am without me looking like a whining idiot.

    “Be yourself, but be your best self” seems to apply quite well to most interactions, online included.

    Just my $.02 (Considering a switch to Euro cents as they’re worth a bit more now)

    Thanks for a great post!

    • http://MichelFortin.com/ Michel Fortin

      Bingo! Excellent example, Seth.

    • http://www.wchingya.com wchingya

      Well put, Seth. For me, that’s the idea of transparency and authenticity in social networking. I believe Michel have explained it well either. The only difference may be the ‘level’ involved and the branding one claims to have while connecting. All in all, we shall be cautious with whatever we shared online.

      From the page: You don’t need to say everything to be transparent, and you don’t need to be transparent to be authentic and authoritative.

      Well done.

      @wchingya
      Social/Blogging Tracker

  • Robin

    Hi Michel,
    Extremely practical advice. Used to be the warning was “Be careful, Big Brother is watching.” Now “Big Brother and his Sister” may be watching – simply because we invited them in.
    Robin

  • http://robertperrett.com/ Thomas

    What’s the reason again that you don’t post some of your blogs as audio blogs?

  • JackiYo

    Thanks for the reminder to think twice before hitting “post” or “share”. Great article.

  • http://GenerosityMarketing.com/ Bryan Bliss

    Michel,Thank you I agree.I think also consistent with the confusion about authenticity vs. vapid transparency there’s a parallel problem with betraying authenticity and credibility when people use too much Hyperbole in effort to sound more “passionate and human” about their subjects.I decided to make an important professional video sharing my professional insight on you-tube, its less than 2 mins.

    Thanks and take care,Bry

    • http://GenerosityMarketing.com/ Bryan Bliss

      oops looks like that embed code didnt work
      here it is,

      • http://MichelFortin.com/ Michel Fortin

        Funny stuff! Thanks, Bryan. As always.

  • http://www.anchorcreative.com/ Kammy

    Great Post! And a quick question — totally off subject. I was told you can get time-limited DVDs that erase the documents from the DVD after a certain time frame or there’s some kind of software that lets you create time-limited DVDs. Any clue about this?

    Thanks,
    Kammy

  • http://radsmarts.com Robin Dickinson

    Thanks, Michel for a gutsy and timely post.

    Perhaps ‘discretion is the better part of Twitter’! ;)

    Best wishes, and thanks for your generous blog.

    Robin

  • http://twitter.com/Winum Winum

    Awesome post Michel – you nailed it.

    I can recommend this TED talk byt Jospeh Pine on the subject (in the offline world): http://www.ted.com/talks/joseph_pine_on_what_consumers_want.html

  • http://MerlesWorld.com/ Merle

    As usual Michel, good food for thought. A lot of folks never consider some of the points you bring up here. Good stuff Maynard!

  • http://twitter.com/shelhorowitz ShelHorowitzGreenMkt

    Michel, by coincidence, yesterday, I posted on how in a universe without privacy, transparency can be turned into a business advantage (http://bit.ly/5ZS4z)–and then this morning, catching up on e-mail, I read your new post. Of course, your point is valid–there can be such a a thing as too much transparency. It’s all about good judgment.

  • aliceseba

    Awesome advice all around, of course, Michel. Something it’s easy to forget.

    Just on the specific point of the robbery, I agree that it could happen, but figure it’s less likely that tweet got him robbed than:

    -> Neighbor kids or thieving adults saw them packing and heading out.
    -> He mentioned going on vacation to people in his town.
    -> People noticed that the house stood empty for some days.

    Of course, if he has a lot of local followers who know where he lives or his Whois info points to his home address (a BIG no-no), then that would be different.

  • Naveen

    Hello Michael,

    I like the copywriting tips and articles posted on your website. These are really great. I want to earn a decent living as freelance copywriter. Is it possible, given the fact that I have never worked in an advt agency.
    If yes, how to go about it. Please suggest. Also suggest some resources to learn and hone the art and science of copywriting.
    Regards,
    Naveen

  • http://twitter.com/TraceyDooley TraceyDooley

    Great, thought-provoking post, Michel!

    Just as there are many people who think ‘keeping it real’ is the most important thing, even if it’s inappropriate to do so, I think there is also the danger of ‘fake authenticity’.

    At the end of the day, people want the (relevant) truth; we need to build trust in an otherwise increasingly cynical age. We need to answer people’s needs, wants and desires. We need to cultivate an experience or a relationship to which others respond favourably.

    In short, it’s about sharing the RIGHT things in the RIGHT context.

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