Since July, Sylvie has been suffering from a ceaseless bout of double pneumonia and a persistent cough, with occasional, debilitating coughing fits.
Something was definitely wrong. Several trips to the hospital and a battery of tests — from x-rays and CT scans, to blood work and sputum tests — were to no avail. Medications were unsuccessful to treat the infection.
Finally, a lung biopsy confirmed our worst fears.
Sylvie, the love of my life, my Soul Mate, the strongest woman I know…
… Was diagnosed with lung cancer.
It’s the worst time for it, too. In fact, Sylvie was diagnosed with breast cancer just three days before I wedding. And now this happens three days before Christmas.
(Yup, Sylvie’s health seems to have an impeccable sense of timing.)
We will let you know as soon as we know more. For now, all we know is that’s it’s “Adenocarcinoma,” which explains the pneumonia-like symptoms.
After the holidays, a new series of tests are needed to pinpoint the exact source and extent of the carcinoma, and chemotherapy should follow and begin in mid-January.
(Thank goodness Sylvie didn’t get rid of her wigs and hats from the last little joyride.)
Needless to say, we’ve got our hands full for the next few months.
Thank you for your good wishes on Facebook, by email, and via this blog. As we prepare for the long road ahead of us, I want to take this time to wish you peace, love and happiness in 2013.
Before I go, here’s a message from Sylvie’s Facebook page, which seems appropriate to repost here. Take it away, my love…
Thank you so much, all of you, for your thoughts and well wishes for me and for Michel as we step into a very challenging new year. It means so much to know that there are so many people like you who genuinely care.
Please know that, just like last time, we intend to fight this battle with all possible weapons at our disposal, and won’t quit until we have kicked cancer’s butt.
As I said to a very dear friend yesterday…
“We are fully expecting me to kick cancers ass again. I would have thought it should have learned its lesson the first time, but apparently it needs to be schooled again.”
For those of you who may be wondering what you can do for us, beyond the obvious prayers and thinking nice thoughts… I am happy to provide some suggestions.
Here are some things that would be really useful for me in the coming months…
- Send cookies
- Send A fruit basket (Edible Arrangements. Yum!)
- Send A box of dark chocolates
- Send A “hurry up and get well” gift basket
- Send some fresh flowers
- Order us Maid service for a day
- Send A pair of warm, fuzzy slippers
- Send A pair of soft bootie socks
- Send Soft cotton pajamas
- Send A soft blanket (for chemo treatment days)
I’ve lost a lot of weight in the last few months, and I know I will lose a bunch more. So, don’t worry about overloading me with calories. I can afford them, for once.
Michel will have a lot on his plate in the coming months, so if you’re in Ottawa, stop by with a casserole or some soup or offer to help with some housework.
Also, if you know of anyone who is looking for an amazing copywriter or wordpress developer, tell them about Michel. The less time he has to spend looking for clients, the easier his life will be.
I know from experience that it is really hard to know what to do to help. It’s hard to know what to say to someone who is scared and dealing with something terrifying.
So, many people say something like “If there’s anything you need, just let me know”. This is nice to hear, but really hard to respond to, because it means the patient has to be creative and come up with specific requests, which feels a lot like begging.
People like me (tough, cheeky, spunky, independent types) have a very hard time asking for help. So, we never get around to asking at all. And then we feel like we’re all alone dealing with this scary thing by ourselves.
So, the above list of suggestions is not meant as a request for free gifts.
(I’m not that greedy.)
But if you want to help and don’t know how… consider this my “hint hint” post. LOL!
Now, a final thought…
To those who will inevitably suggest a variety of cures, potions and alternatives… Please read these two blog posts I wrote a while back, and it will help you understand why my response will always be… “Thank you, I’ll look into it”.
I love you all…
P.S.: So many people asked via Facebook and by email, so to be clear our home address is: 505 Harvest Valley Avenue, Ottawa, Ontario (Canada) K4A 0S3.